Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4 NIV
In October of 1941, Winston Churchill gave a commencement speech for the students at his alma mater, the Harrow School. It is still quoted today. In fact, not only is it often quoted, many have the abbreviated version of the speech committed to memory:
“Never, never, never give in!” Or give up! Poetic, isn’t it? Reportedly, Mr. Churchill articulated this brief speech from the podium, gaining volume and intensity with each word, and then sat right back down. Clearly, he meant what he said. It’s okay to be a man of few words when the words carry that much passion.
What about you? Are you passionate about persevering in recovery from your eating disorder? Are you committed to never, never, never giving up? Notice, if you will, what Winston Churchill did not say. He did not say: “Never, never, never mess up!”
No one would print that on a T-shirt or mug, now would they? No way. And why not? Because perseverance does not mean perfection.
If you are struggling with an eating disorder, chances are you already live under the self-imposed pressure of perfectionism. Let me help you out. Perfection is a myth; an unattainable ideal that will keep you forever spinning on a proverbial hamster’s wheel, never to reach your unrealistic goal. Cruel, isn’t it?
Mistakes are allowed. Mess-ups are allowed. And, dare I say it? Relapse is allowed. It is acceptable to fall, but choose to fall forward. And what does that mean in your battle against ED? It means getting up after a fall, persevering day after day, one day at a time, one meal at a time, one bite at a time.
Let’s be real. Where did perfectionism get you? It landed you in the snare of your eating disorder. It became a disease. It fooled you and it betrayed you. And guess what? Your recovery will not be perfect. It can’t be perfect. You cannot cure perfectionism with perfectionism.
So, what do you do? Expect mistakes. Accept messups. And never, never, never give up!
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by: Jena Morrow
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Jena Morrow’s debut book, “Hope,” chronicles her nearly three-decade-long battle with eating and body image issues. In her second book, “Hope for the Hollow,” Jena takes readers on a thirty-day devotional journey to challenge eating disordered thoughts and beliefs in light of God’s Word. In addition to being a writer, speaker, and activist for eating disorder awareness and prevention, Jena works as the Alumnae Coordinator at Timberline Knolls in Lemont, IL, a premiere residential treatment center for women and girls battling eating disorders, substance abuse, mood disorders, self-injury, and PTSD. Jena makes her home in a suburb of Chicago with her son, Jaden, his pet snake Stephanie, and a mischievous cat named Prim.