A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17 NIV
The one constant about relationships is that they are always changing.
People talk about life being a journey and it is, but so are the relationships we have with those around us. We begin at a starting point with another person and we move forward (or not), growing more in trust and respect over time (or not), depending on many different factors.
One thing is true. If we’re to keep relationships over the long haul, we have to expect to weather tough times with every person at one time or another, and not give up on them or the relationship. Every friendship we have will be tested during difficult moments and then we decide to keep risking what we value most—generally our hearts—to keep believing in and working toward more strength, deeper understanding, and truer selfless care for others.
It is exactly at this key juncture, in this difficult yet essential finding out realm that individuals make discoveries about themselves and those they’ve trusted. The dynamic interplay that takes place between people will change everyone involved, even when trust is broken—maybe especially then.
No doubt; whether a person puts faith in people, a process, or a plan, doubt will be a close kin to all. There will be ebbs and flows, highs and lows, glimpses of understanding, and long slow stretches of darkness where we mentally take ourselves by the hand and walk ourselves back to what we know to be trustworthy and true. By and by, we’ll get there. To be sure, we’ll recognize how both doubt and trust played their roles in helping us arrive safely.
Final word: Test everything and hold on to the good. Believing the best of someone you care about is always good.
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by: Michele Howe
Michele Howe is the author of twelve books for women and has published over 1600 articles, reviews, and curriculum to more than 100 different publications. Her articles and reviews have been published in Good Housekeeping, First For Women, Single Parent Family, Christian Single, and many other publications. Michele’s single parenting titles include Going It Alone and Still Going It Alone. After having undergone six shoulder surgeries, Michele saw the need for a women’s inspirational health-related book co-authored with her orthopedic surgeon titled, Burdens Do a Body Good: Meeting Life’s Challenges with Strength (and Soul), released in 2010 and from which Prescription for Life, their health, medical and surgical informational book, is based.